Baba says, ‘Only those who have their true “suhaag” are fortunate‘. True suhaag is having the awareness of the one Father.
In Hindu culture, ‘suhaag‘ means the fortune of being wed. It is indicated by women wearing a tilak on their forehead. At the end of the cycle, God comes as the Bridegroom and to take all souls, His brides, back home with Him. Ravan has imprisoned you in his cottage of sorrow (shok vatika), He says. The Beloved has come now. He makes you brides beautiful and takes you back to His cottage that is free from sorrow (Ashok vatika). He liberates us. He is the Unlimited Bridegroom of the unlimited brides. When the bride weds, she not only wears the tilak of suhaag but also becomes the master of all of her husband’s fortune. Whatever is his, is now hers.
The sign of constantly having a suhaag is to have the tilak of imperishable awareness of who I am and Whom I belong to. The fortune is purity and all attainments from the Father. The sign of constantly having fortune is to have a crown of light. If my awareness is lacking, Baba says, then my tilak will not sparkle. When my tilak is sparkling, I will be constantly visible in front of the world as an elevated soul. They see a contented soul, a happy soul, a complete soul. When I am in remembrance of the One, I remember myself. His companionship enables me to touch base with my own truth and emerge that again. His love in the form of His elevated directions ensures my every thought, word and deed are elevated. I had been searching for the Beloved for half a cycle, I have found Him now. Having found Him, I have found the whole world. The sign of being constantly lost in the love of One in this way, of having the tilak of awareness, is the tilak of suhaag.
The Father says: if the tilak is rubbed off, it means you have finished your suhaag. Check, He says, ‘am I constantly wed?’
A bride never becomes separated for even one breath or moment. The words in the mind of a bride are: ‘We will constantly stay together, live together and die together‘. The face and image of the bridegroom is constantly merged in the eyes and lips of the bride. She hears only his words through her ears. On the path of devotion, they have the practice of constantly hearing soundless words (un-had shabd), and if they hear this sound even once after making a lot of effort, they consider their devotion to have been worthwhile.
The customs and systems of devotion have been copied from your practical life of this present time, explains Baba.
The one who is constantly wed hears the eternal great mantra ‘Manmanabhav!’ echoing in her ears. She would constantly experience the Father repeating these words again and again and bringing back this awareness. While walking and moving around, she would constantly hear these imperishable words personally from the Father and would not hear the words of other souls even while hearing them – they could be words of praise or defamation, of accolades or insults, it doesn’t matter. It’s as if they fall on deaf ears. One who is constantly wed would always have the stage of “I speak to You, I listen to You, I only speak that which You have related.” Such a bride would not bring another soul into her awareness even in her thoughts for even a second – there are no questions of ‘why did so and so say this? or what did they mean? or did you hear…!’ Even while living in this world, her inner world is only the One. No one else has any influence over such a bride i.e. there would never be subservience to any bodily being even in her thoughts.
To constantly have the suhaag means to belong to the one Father and none other. Check, says Baba, do you have the tilak of such a suhaag applied? or does Maya rub your tilak off from time to time?
Together with a constant suhaag, there is also constant fortune.
In the world, to have a kingdom is a sign of fortune and the sign of a kingdom is a crown. Here too, the sign of Godly fortune is a crown of light, and the basis of attaining this crown is to have purity and all attainments. Complete purity is not just limited to celibacy but it means purity in every aspect – in thoughts, words, and deeds. All attainments means the attainment of knowledge, all virtues and all powers. If any attainment is lacking, the crown of light wouldn’t be clearly visible; it would be unseen and hidden behind the clouds of impurity and lack of attainment. To have attainment is to experience easiness. There is no laboring or battling. It is when I am discontent i.e. there is a lack of some or other attainment that I find life difficult. Then, I am seeking, battling, trying too hard.
There is no lightness experienced, it is an effort to be me i.e. to be soul conscious. I find that I have to remind myself again and again that I am a soul and despite that, I keep slipping back into body consciousness. This is because when I lack eternal attainment, I chase after the limited ‘I’ and ‘mine’ in the old world and consequently experience myself as a body rather than as a soul. The basis of fortune is all attainments. The basis of all attainments is the constant awareness of the one Father i.e. my suhaag.
In other words, when I am constantly wed, I am constantly fortunate. Then, I am constantly happy. If there is less fortune, there is less happiness. Now, keeping all these things in front of you, says Baba, check: Who am I? Whom do I belong to in my mind?